Real love isn’t controlling. It supports others in being how they want to be rather than pressuring them into behaving the way we want them to. It isn’t possessive or jealous. It’s allowing and accepting. It doesn’t demand the fulfillment of a bargain because it’s unconditional. It smiles with appreciation and honors the true essence of others. But we can only genuinely feel love for anyone else when we feel that way about ourselves. When we unconditionally love and accept ourselves, we don’t seek it from the outside. We just want to…
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Jarl and Steve
Thank you for the answer..but what is the nature of these boundaries?is it a physical one like staying away ,not responding,not talking,not picking up the phone.or is it a psychological line where you are not thinking about her,not expecting anything from her.
Love ? love ? and love Only
Sir but where do we draw the line of getting exploited.where do we draw the line of not trespassing.how will we secure us from the insensitive doings from.the people we love on the space we provided for them in the name of unconditional love.do we still need to be loving even after the exploitative moments or should we walk away..
Thank you for your questions. Definitely we need not take abuse, ever, from those we love. Boundaries are really necessary. When we love ourselves enough, we don’t allow others to exploit, trespass or abuse us. We can still love them and understand that they have problems that make them act in unhealthy ways, but we set boundaries and stay away from them. Forgive them, and walk away. Just like you may love a sibling but not their behavior, you can love everyone unconditionally, but set limits and boundaries about what behavior is acceptable.
This beautiful little paragraph is what I call the heart of the revolution. It is exactly what Maxim Gorky saw in the human race in his 1907 novel “Mother”. It just overflows when we notice it. Love, Larry