Everyone responds to life differently. Behavior that’s unpleasant or weird to you may seem perfectly reasonable from another perspective. Since you can’t know what it’s like to be anyone else, judging them is an illogical and counterproductive exercise. It’s nonsensical because they are simply doing what anyone with their DNA and life experience would do. It’s damaging because judgments hurt you first, even when they’re directed outward. As long as their actions aren’t harmful, allowing them to do as they please without the burden of your disapproval is the hallmark of enlightened behavior. It’s called:
Tolerance.
Steve and Jarl
It’s also fun to inspect our motivation for judging. We do better at affirming ourselves by attaching to what we perceive as upward, whereas it is awkward and tippy-seeming to try to balance a self-lift from something we consider on the wrong track. We profit from our experience by modifying our habits to more practical and productive forms. An AA lesson I learned is to identify rather than to compare. Boy, are we ever “in this together”!