Basing your behavior on what you think will impress others is risky business. Since they are seeing through a filter created by their unique belief system, what they think of you tells you more about them than it does about you. On the other hand, when you act according to what will impress you, you’re betting on a sure thing. That way, the most important person in your life will be happy with you. Plus, it’ll encourage a level of self-esteem that actually will…
Impress everyone.
Merci
Maybe if parents would treat their chlierdn with respect and NOT put them down all the time,pull their hair,smack them,scream at them along with calling them names, kids would have a better chance on NOT developing depression or low self esteem.If I had parents that didn’t name call me,hit me or put me down I would’ve never grew up so negative and miserable. What chlierdn hear and see does effect them for a life time. THANKS MOM AND DAD. Rot in Hell!Then they toss their chlierdn aside once they ruined them emotionally.
I’m sorry this happened to you. It would be wonderful if parents treated their children with loving kindness all the time. However, that is not the case yet. In the meantime, we who weren’t treated well need to heal ourselves and stop the madness by not passing it down. We can heal, and forgiveness is part of the healing. Without forgiving our parents for their misguided ways, we don’t heal. We are all doing our best even if it doesn’t seem like it. Some people’s ‘bests’ are a whole lot better than other people’s ‘bests’. It’s all about how evolved one is. Forgive and get on with the healing. You forgive for you, not for them. 🙂