Assuming ownership of your mate or children, decreases the likelihood of having healthy and satisfying relationships with them. It also sets you up for problems in the future. When you think of them as extensions of yourself, you box them in with expectations that might be difficult or inauthentic for them to fulfill. When you treat them as free agents who are meant to live life according to their own compass, you help foster their personal growth.
And your own too.
Merci